Be brave and try

When we experience a traumatic event like a divorce it can have a huge impact on our confidence. We start to doubt ourselves and our decisions and start to talk ourselves out of doing something “in case it goes wrong”.

So many of the women I work with tell me that they are afraid to start dating again or look for a new job because they are scared that it won’t work out. Remember that old phrase “Once bitten and twice shy…”

As a coach it's my role to help them reframe those negative thoughts. When they tell me they are scared to do the thing  because it might go wrong I encourage them to focus on what would happen if it all worked out?

Our brains do an amazing job at keeping us safe but sometimes they are just a bit too protective. Sometimes we need to ignore those thoughts and do the thing anyway.

If we never step out of our comfort zone we will never grow and we might be turning down the chance to do something amazing, to fall in love again, to get the role of our dreams. 

Back to my coaching…When I ask my clients to lean into the feelings that are evoked when they think about something going right I see a light in their eyes. 

If you want something badly but are too scared to try, be brave and go for it. You deserve to try.