Dating after divorce

How do you feel about dating post divorce?

Have you decided that you’re never going to date again? Or perhaps you can’t wait to get back out there and have fun.

Whatever your circumstances, dating after divorce can feel like a huge step. 

My advice is simple. Don’t jump back into dating too soon. Divorce or breakup can take its toll on your emotions so even if you know your marriage or relationship is really, truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space to recover.

We often lose some of our self-esteem during divorce so it’s really important to make sure that you are comfortable with who you are. If you’re not, this can have a huge effect on your relationships going forward. If we can’t love and accept ourselves we may end up in relationships that don’t serve us well. 

Another piece of advice is not to let well meaning friends coerce you into dating again. Date when you are ready, not because you feel you need to do it. Take time to heal and enjoy some alone-time to figure out what you want next in life. 

Dating after divorce can be brilliant as we often have much better boundaries and know much more clearly what we are looking for in relationships. So take your time and ease yourself back into the dating world slowly and gently.